One of the many things I've learned (and am still learning) from my battle with postpartum depression is that I have to make time for myself. I need to change my thinking, in many cases, and learn to believe that I am a good mother and wife. But how can I believe that if I regularly criticize myself?
Last night, driving home from work, I was flipping radio stations and happened to catch an interview with Christine Arylo discussing her book Choosing ME before WE, Every Woman's Guide to Life and Love. It occurred to me that her ideas make so much sense not only from the standpoint of a romantic relationship but in other aspects of life as well. After all, how can my son learn to love himself if I don't teach by example? So, I made a mental note to look up her website to see what else I could find out.
Ms. Arylo's premis is simple: self-love is essential and women need to learn to fall in love with themselves. It really makes sense, doesn't it? It's not about superiority or narcissim; it's about learning to love you. ALL of you - your best qualities and your not so best. Instead of looking in the mirror and criticizing your weight, size, shape (fill in the blank), look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Change your thinking.
In keeping with her theme, she declared February 13 as Self Love Day. As part of Self Love Day it's time to fall madly in love with me by creating my own Manifesta:
I vow. . .
to give myself the respect I deserve.
to learn to love me for who I am (not who I think I should be).
to realize that while it's ok to become better, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with who I am.
to take care of myself the way I deserve to be taken care of.
to compliment myself daily.
to remember that learning to love my self is a process that will continue to evolve.
It's time to realize that my flaws make me who I am and that's ok. It's ok to want to change them or improve upon myself. It's not ok to continually knock myself down for them. Life is about moving forward and there's no time to dwell on the negative.
I encourage you to visit the Madly in Love with Me website and make your own manifesta. You can download a free Madly in Love with Me Guidebook here. Start falling in love today. (With you!)
Wait... there's more!
Like this necklace?
One lucky reader could win one of her very own! Here's what you need to do:
Download the FREE Me Love Kit by clicking here.
Leave a comment on this blog post telling me either 1. The self-love dare you took and why? or 2. The self-love vow you took and why?
(Both the dare and the vows are found in the Me-Love Kit . You must download the kit and take/share a vow or dare to be a part of this contest.)
Winner will be chosen with a random number generator on March 12, 2009.
*I am working with Christine Arylo as part of this blog campaign. The necklace is being offered by her as a giveaway on this blog.
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